Since Noah passed away, I continue to get advice on self-care. One aspect of self-care is having and actually utilizing a support system. Most people have support systems. One isn’t required to be a member of the sad, unfortunate bereaved parents club to have one. For me, though, since losing my son, I’ve become much more open to this concept and much more appreciative of having one.
I’m so grateful for my friends and family members far and near who are there for me. I am grateful for their love, compassion and efforts to walk by my side on my journey.
I’m also fortunate to have a few bereaved parent support groups. MLH and I had one while living on the east coast. We were sad to leave this group. We miss its members and think of their children often. When we moved I searched for a local group and recently found one. Additionally I have a virtual group that consists of parents who also have lost Heterotaxy children. I am so grateful for having these groups in my life. They’re an important part of my support system.
Within my support system I have “a triathlete section.” Here I have my friends and family members who tolerate my training schedule, inquire about my progress and cheer me on.
Members of my tri clubs are also part of my support system. The interesting thing about this group is they don’t even know it! They don’t know that by showing up, focusing on the workout, talking about a race, discussing technique, and doing pretty much anything related to training they’re providing a tremendous amount of support. Not asking if I have children but asking about PRs, favorite segments, bikes, races and training schedules is the best support I can get at that time.
What does your support system look like? Are you utilizing it when you need to? Are you part of somebody else’s support system?